I Don’t Like My Child’s Speech Therapist!
I Don’t Like My Child’s Speech Therapist
Written by: Guest Speech Pathologist Kim Smith Rowe
But what if I don’t like my child’s speech therapist?
I recently read a discussion on another site where many mothers were in agreement over their (extreme) DISLIKE for their speech therapist. I hated it. It made me incredibly sad to hear people bashing professionals from my own field.
But, the overarching theme in the discussion, of medical professionals not respecting the knowledge and opinions of someone’s very personal experience, is not new. I had just hoped that speech-language pathologists (SLPs) weren’t grouped into that uppity category. Apparently, they sometimes are.
So…what can be done?
Well, first I can say I’m sorry! SLPs all need to do better everyday, serving their clients AND their families in a sensitive and open way. Unfortunately we can’t change other people, so here are some things that you, as a parent, can do to improve your working relationship with your child’s SLP.
1) Communicate What Works Best For You
SLPs are trained to work with clients, but not always their families. While SLP graduate programs are making more efforts to include interacting with parents and families in training, it is (sadly) not always covered.
SLPs may be more or less experienced in working with families and may feel more or less comfortable engaging with families naturally. So, tell your SLP what you want.
Are you the parent who wants to drop off your child and let the SLP do her thing? You may be happy to take your child to speech therapy, but may not feel that it’s a huge issue for your child at this time. Communicate that to your SLP.
OR would you prefer to take part in some or all of the therapy session? Would you like to have homework to maximize progress and be informed very specifically of how your child is doing? Are you very concerned about your child’s speech or language development or a little overwhelmed by it all? Communicate that too.
Know yourself and be clear in a conversation with your SLP of what works best for you.
2) Seek Support
SLPs vary in their experience and sensitivity when sharing difficult news with parents. If your SLP says something that rubs you the wrong way, try to listen to the actual information and ignore the delivery of that information.
Keep in mind that this can be a difficult time for you and your family. A lot of what your SLP has to say about your child’s speech and language difficulties may not be what you want to hear and you may be feeling a little sensitive (rightfully so!).
So, be gentle with yourself and tell your SLP if you need a to take a break from a difficult conversation. Then, grab a friend to give you a hug and seek out some support!
Working through all of the emotions related to having a child with special needs is not easy, but any support you can get will help you and your child on this journey. Your SLP may have other families in similar situations that they can connect you with locally or you also have probably found a great deal of support here at the Language Delay Network!
There’s nothing like talking to other parents in the same shoes.
3) Take Yourself Out Of The Equation
SLPs are just people too, with their own unique personalities. You are now involved in this very personal, yet professional relationship, but your personalities may or may not click. Try to take a step back and take yourself out of it. Ask yourself these questions:
- Does my child like this SLP?
- Does this SLP seem to treat my child well?
- Is my child making progress?
If the answer is yes to at least the last two questions, you may want to stick it out. Those two answers are really the most important.
4) Give It Time
SLPs need to build rapport and a relationship with your child. Depending on your child, opening up with someone new and doing something like talking, can take time. Not to mention the time it can take to know and communicate how involved you want to be in therapy and to work through your own emotions of all that is new to you in this process. So, don’t rush.
BUT, if you’ve already…
- Communicated what works best for you,
- Sought out support,
- Evaluated your CHILD’S relationship with your speech therapist, and
- Given it all time to evolve,
AND you still aren’t happy…THEN you know it’s time to switch therapists.
Before switching, talk with your current therapist. Be honest and explain what’s not working. Ask for copies of any documents (ex: evaluation/assessment reports, progress reports) you don’t already have so that you’ll have that information to share with the next therapist. With the knowledge that you’ve done the right thing for your child, you can start looking for someone new with a clear conscience and open mind. If you don’t know where to start, ask around. There have to be other parents you know who have a speech therapist they love.
Right? I hope so!